"No man is an island". John Donne
As humans, we aspire to social relations, even if consciously think. There is a reason for single people, young and old, when they are happier dogs or cat is not available. We are born and die locate and obtain search for relationships.
Sonja Luybomirsky, psychologist, presents in his book The Science of Happiness; "There is something special and unique ABOUT relationship, and we would do well to strengthen, nurture and enjoy." We are looking for a strong and stable in the original positive, and are often different from any relationship noxious, toxic or unsatisfactory stay at all relationships. We resist demolition relations, which are even harmful. I see the evidence, if customers do not eat because they decided to take a break, and then a year later, I received a call from them, "We can see again, will try to make it function." People hanging around in a pool.
Without a sense of belonging can experience a number of negative consequences. We feel lost and alone, which often causes pain, anxiety and depression. We feel incomplete, unhappy in life, we often wonder why we do our best in life, when no one to share it comfortable. Some engage in promiscuity, looking for a sense of connection. A study in orphanages after the war in the Balkans is healthy babies died Un Certain that because they were not touched enough. The sense of belonging is essential to our wellbeing.
So how to maintain a relationship? Research shows that couples who succeed spend five hours a week to talk to each other. How long will we have to talk with your partner? There are some things that you have spent much time together in mind to increase.
Start planning your schedule for the other (in the production of this, we all live in the calendar). Make sure the time of honor and your partner feel that I or she is important and essential for you. Moreover, the time you plan to do with the other "stuff". Farm Produce Market, stroll, creation date nights, and similar types of activities and maintain a sense of connection and belonging. By working together, dishes, gardening, building a shed, pay bills or anything else, seems less threatening, less time and is at least comforting, if not fun. Spontaneous kisses while doing household chores can be fun and can do wonders to participate.
Take five minutes a day, gratitude and appreciation to our partners and what they are doing expression. Thanked is very powerful and positive. Each day, you can spend 20 minutes free, I discussed the daily connections before. When you choose a long while, every time you esta every day, building a routine. Start the conversation with gratitude, or other communication plan passes discuss any questions you might have noticed, and ending their hopes and dreams. Connect Hundred First
The morning routine must be true embrace, when truly present and feel that is close. In addition, each of you, at least one thing that the other is doing and maybe some that day they will do for fun and something, worry is head to see. The night will be a farewell routine; kiss and a hug, "I missed you, it's good to be together again," 15 minutes to discuss the day's events in a non-stressful way.
It might be interesting, at home, where you are free from distractions, do not interact with each other to develop an area of free media to enjoy the company and the other person. Some things that can be taken into account; Dance, read a book or poetry, play cards or board games, take classes, starting or hobbies, planning and holiday dates, live their fantasies.
If you wish, you can search and Charlotte Diamond download and listen to your song four hugs a day. 6/2 would recommend at least four hugs a day. These are of great body, two arms busy, hugs fully present. Six seconds is long enough for one to feel his presence and short enough to not embarrassing time. Remember, physical contact is important for our well-being and sense of belonging.
Whatever you choose, is inherent in us the need we all want to feel fit "to someone, somewhere. Load Without it, one of the reasons stated in our own lives and participate in life is to be alive. I know life is to feel that you belong. '
"Remember, a lot of time to practice how they have spent their unhappy. Learn to be happy together some time to do." William and Carleen Glasser.
Dallas Munkholm, B. A. B.Com., M.Psy., R.T.C.
Professional counselor and life coach
Co-author of preparation for marriage: The beginning of a preparation for marriage for download
Co-author of Intimate Sex Manual for sex, a sex guide for couples
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